Step Nine: Be honest with yourself and others
Learn to say "no" and ask for what you want...
This step can be very difficult for many people, myself included. Why is it that we think it is our responsibility to keep others happy at any cost? And that somehow, no matter how unhappy something makes us, it’s worth it to not cause unhappiness to others. We end up staying in uncomfortable situation, relationships, jobs, or whatever else, longer than we need to or want to simply because we believe that we are doing someone else a favor, spearing them pain, or that it’s what is expected of us. Though sometimes you just have to say “no” if no is what you mean or even need. Don’t be harsh, just be honest, speak your mind… and once again come from love. Honesty is about making known what you want and asking for it.
Only in the last year have I realized the power of this step in striving for a blissful life.